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They’re just kids, they’ll grow out of it!

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  They are only kids, is often what we tell ourselves. They will grow out of it. Well, for some kids yes they do grow out of their tantrums and misbehavior but for others it’s far more complex than kids being kids. As a child, I dealt with my fare share of anxiety, depression and what I came to find out I was living with OCD since the age of 5. I never really talked about how I felt with my parents, I always kept it in. Today was the first day I realized that my 6 year old daughter might also have mental health issues that I still don’t quite understand but I know the symptoms. For those of you who know my daughter, she was a hand full from day one, all I knew was that I am her mother and regardless of her actions, I will always defend and be behind her no matter what. What really got me today, aside from being pulled into class by her teacher after school but rather the negative self talk that came out of her. It hurt me to the core because that was me growing up. For example, she...
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Motherhood

            Motherhood is said to be one of the most beautiful experiences ever! No one ever! I mean don't get me wrong, there are more beautiful moments than they're bad. My first experience as a mother started lonely, as I was left alone through one of the most life changing journeys any woman can go through. My first pregnancy was a bit traumatic and broke me to the core. But I had to be okay for the sake of my daughter who now depended on me. I promised myself that my next pregnancy I would try my best to go through that journey worry free, sadness free, angry free and more importantly resentment free as those were all the feelings that I carried with me during and after pregnancy. Took many years to truly forgive others and most importantly myself. Let's talk about pregnancy first, I mean it's so common that we really do not see that an actual human is forming in our bodies. Our insides are changing to make room for the little bundle of joy to arr...
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How well do we really know ourselves?

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        Hey loves, I've been away for a while. These last couple of years, I find myself starting things and not really following through with what I start. I think that applies to most aspects in my life. The several businesses I once started, the ideas that came to life but dwindled after a few days. I recently started a brow business and made pretty good money off it but felt myself feeling the same way. Maybe it's time I see a real therapist? I am not oppose to the idea, I feel like I am a little screwed up but at this point in life who isn't. When I was 19, I would think to myself by age 30 I will be settled, have my own place, have a good career (which I do, or I would like to think) and call it a day. BOY was I wrong! I am now thirty and feel like I am at square one! The accomplishments once celebrated is now nowhere in sight. Who knows, I might start this blog once again and next week I'll be done with it! I guess at this point we won't know! As I sit here t...
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OCD & Education

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  I felt proud! Opening up that mail, seeing my name on that degree. I could say, I did get teary. I finished my Master’s degree May 2021 but OCD took that feeling of proudness from me. I was not able to experience the feeling of achievement after working so hard for 4 long years. I had to verbally remind myself of what the last for years for me was like. Who knew that a piece of paper could hold so much meaning? I did not think that I would get to experience such a feeling again. Truly reminded me how to appreciate the small moments because I knew how it felt to live with no meaning. Wake up feeling worthless, wake up feeling like giving up and what hurt me the most playing with my daughter and not being able to be emotionally and mentally present with her. I prayed that I would get out of that hole I was in, I prayed that I wouldn’t experience that ever again but I also prayed for God to take me because I could not live with that feeling another day.    Most of my life,...
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OCD Mindset: Perfectly Imperfect with Priscilla Cabrera

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  Four years ago, is when I really, I began feeling like what I had accomplished was not good enough. My career was not good enough. My life was not good enough. Initially I thought to myself, okay I am not satisfied so what can I do that can satisfy this feeling of NOT ENOUGH.   My daughter was not even a month old when I began my Masters. In 2019, I opened my first online boutique which did not go as planned. In 2020, I started my life coach certification (Currently still working on it). I started this journey to satisfy my feeling of not enough and not accomplished.  Until recently, I learned that 75% of this feeling was my OCD telling me I was not good enough. OCD was telling me that I had not accomplished anything and you need to do more. Harsh right! Having just graduated with my Masters and I did not feel accomplished. I thought to myself, I need my PhD and just maybe then I will feel accomplished? But really thinking about it, I thought to myself will I ever ...
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Self Care: Perfectly Imperfect with Priscilla Cabrera

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  Self-Care: Perfectly Imperfect with Priscilla Cabrera    Self-Care is defined as what people do for themselves to establish and maintain health, and to prevent and deal with illness. It is a broad concept encompassing hygiene, nutrition, lifestyle, environmental and social economic factors.  -         Internal Self Care Foundation    Self-Care has gained interest within the last decade or so. But growing up in a Mexican household, self-care can be seen as selfish. Harsh right! I know. I remember when I was pregnant with my daughter, my mom telling me you need to put your daughter first, your daughter second and your daughter third and if there is anything left then you. That is the old mentality of a Hispanic mom, putting herself to a side. I can that was part of the culture and it still is in Mexico. Don’t get me wrong, I respect my mom for always putting my brother and I first.  But if I am being honest, yes our c...
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OCD & Entrepreneurship: Perfectly Imperfect with Priscilla Cabrera

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  Most of my life I felt like I lived in a bubble. I kept myself sheltered where I felt comfortable and secure. Trying new things always terrified me. I somehow managed. Managed to live a life where I always felt incomplete and not happy. Half my life, I was searching for happiness, happiness within and happiness outside of me.  It came in moments. Moments that I wish could last a lifetime.  One of the areas that OCD kept me hidden was the journey of entrepreneurship. Growing up, I was raised to go to school and get a good paying job and BAMB! You made it. It took me having my daughter to realize that I wanted more in my career. I wanted to be my own Boss. This clearly explains why I always bumped heads with supervisors. Not that I would go out of my way and be rude but I never liked people telling what to do.  If I want to take a day off, I am type of vibes.    I never saw entrepreneurship in my life until I had my daughter 4 years ago. I was working in a ...
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